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would say defines a girl or a boy, and I think that’s what I had to understand: Being a girl … it’s the box that I get put into. The definition is what I don’t like. The box is what I don’t like. It’s the [stereotype of] weakness, and the vulnerability. . . . I’m strong. As you get older, I think I just started to celebrate it, because I learned more about what women really are. . . . But it took me a while to get like that. It can take a while for most of us to “get like that,” as she puts it. But one of the first steps is to find your voice and, from there, determine for yourself who you are, whether that falls within the traditional genders or beyond.

10 Beyond Male and Female • The Gender Identity Spectrum